Dear Girls,
You come across a failure, a broken person and you fall in love with him.
You have this strong desire to help him, to mend him, to fix him.
You do it once, you do it twice and think you will love to do this rest of your life.
You express your desire and leave no stone unturned until he gives into your idea to correct himself, reform himself.
If your story sounds similar to above even slightly, just stop it then and there.
The guy, whom you think needs a fix, has been this way for years together.
What you see as failure is the manner in which he wins his ways, a perspective he himself doesn't have a clue of.
What you see as a broken is the way he has accustomed himself to the big-bad-world out there in open. He has his issues, shortcomings, but those are not embedded deep inside him.
No matter what you plan to do, you can't change him. You can't fix him. Leave him the way he is.
Because if you still insist to do what you were planning to do for so long, this is gonna happen -
He may show signs of improvement initially, but deep inside, he's the same broken person you wanted to fix. Time and again, you'll see his broken side, and feel frustrated over the failure of yours to fix him.
Still you'll love to give it a try. For the sake of love. For the sake of humanity.
The guy will see your efforts, will try to make amends in his behaviour, his thinking process, so that he gets fixed, be worthy of you. But as the change process goes, he will still be back to his broken ways, especially at times of despair.
On the other hand, you'll ignore the efforts he is putting in, and remember, count actually, how many times he went back to his broken ways and made you a failure. But still, you'll be there for him.
Until one fine day, you decide that it has been enough and you can't take it anymore. You can't take his shit anymore and you need to draw a line. You want to get over your black past.
What you never bother to care about is the guy you leave behind. Someone who is broken as per your terminology is now devastated. He was still in the middle of change process when you decided to leave.
He is at a point of no return now, where the only way to go ahead is towards more failure, more trust issues.
While you go ahead and enjoy your life, which gets awesome day by day, the guy is left is stuck behind, in middle of no where.
